I'll decompose your big question into smaller questions and answer them in (hopefully) simple terms.
1. What is meant by the risk neutral measure?
This is how I understand the risk-neutral measure (commonly denoted by $\mathbb{Q}$): It is the probability measure under which the current value of all financial assets at a time, say $t$, are equal to the expected future payoff of the asset discounted at the risk-free rate, $r$. It's used heavily in the the prices of financial derivatives because of the Fundamental Theorem of Asset Pricing (see: Wikipedia).
This theorem implies that in a complete market (i.e., a market that allows the hedging of the risk inherent in any investment strategy), a financial derivative's price is the discounted expected value of the future payoff under $\mathbb{Q}$.
It's well-known that in the case of a geometric Brownian motion model a unique risk-neutral measure exists. However, the introduction of jumps, as in Merton's 1976 paper, destroys this notion of completeness and so we no longer have a unique risk-neutral measure $\mathbb{Q}$.
Finally, the risk-neutral pricing formula of a European call at time $t$ with the parameters you mentioned is
$$C = C(t, S_t)=\mathbb{E}_{\mathbb{Q}}[e^{-rT}(S_t-K)^+|\mathcal{F}_t],$$
where for now just read $\mathcal{F}_t$ as the all the information known at time $t$.
2. What's the price of European call in Merton's model?
A closed-form solution for European options under Merton's jump-diffusion model exists. Let $C_{BS}$ denote the price of your European call under the Black-Scholes model. You'd like $C_{JD}$, its value under Merton's jump-diffusion model, where your jump size follows a log-normal distribution with average jump size $m$ and jump size volatility $\nu$. The formula for $C_{JD}$ can be written as:
$$C_{JD}(S, K, \sigma, r, T, \lambda, m, \nu)=\sum_{k=0}^{\infty}\frac{\exp{(-m\lambda T)(m\lambda T)^k}}{k!}C_{BS}(S, K, \sigma_k, r_k, T),$$
where $\sigma_k = \sqrt{\sigma^2 + k\nu^2/T}$ and $r_k = r - \lambda(m-1)+k\log(m)/T$.
Each term in the infinite series corresponds to every possible jump frequency scenario.
3. How do we simulate Merton's jump-diffusion model on a computer?
This is possibly the broadest question of them all and (correct me users if I'm wrong) depends on a variety of factors. In my opinion, the simplest way to do so is follows (I won't go into much detail here):
i. Get the Euler discretisation of the Merton jump-diffusion model;
ii. Get your parameters (a major topic in its own right);
iii. Generate three sets of independent random numbers corresponding to the three random variables in your discretisation scheme;
iv. Get the values for the simulated stock path using these;
iv. Use Monte Carlo integration to get the price of your call option.
I hope this helps and excuse any mistakes I've made along the way.
Thanks, Vladimir
Extra: Here's a thesis and book which provide great introductions (and more) to this topic.