We can show that the moments of the Binomial tree agree with the moments of the continuous model for the case where we pick symmetrical probability value $p=0.5$.
I will change the notation slightly (you will see later on why: I deliberately use $\eta$ instead of $\mu$):
$$u=e^{\eta\Delta t+\sigma\sqrt{\Delta t}}, \qquad d=e^{\eta\Delta t-\sigma\sqrt{\Delta t}}$$
Also, let's introduce the following notation: the maturity we are interested in will be denoted $T$ (instead of $t$), and $\Delta t$ can then be expressed as $\frac{T}{n}$, where $n$ is the number of steps on the tree.
So the dynamics for $S_t$ is given as:
$$S_T=S_0u^jd^{n-j}$$
Taking the log makes things a lot easier:
$$\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)}=j\ln(u)+(n-j)\ln(d)=\\=j\left(\ln(u)-\ln(d)\right)+n\ln(d)=\\=2j\sigma\sqrt{\Delta t}+n\eta\Delta t-n\sigma\sqrt{\Delta t}=\\=j\left(2\sigma\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\right)+n\left(\eta\frac{T}{n}-\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\sigma\right)$$
We know that $j\sim Bin(n,p)$, so the moments are:
\begin{align*}
\tag{1}
\mathbb{E}\left[\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)}\right]=\left(2\sigma\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\right)\mathbb{E}\left[j\right]+n\left(\eta\frac{T}{n}-\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\sigma\right)=\\=\left(2\sigma\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\right)(np)+n\left(\eta\frac{T}{n}-\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\sigma\right)=\\=2p(\sigma\sqrt{T}\sqrt{n})-\sigma\sqrt{T}\sqrt{n}+\eta T=\\=(2p-1)(\sigma\sqrt{T}\sqrt{n})+\eta T
\end{align*}
The variance is:
\begin{align*}
\tag{2}
V\left(\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)}\right)=V\left(j2\sigma\sqrt{\frac{T}{n}}\right)=\\=V(j)\left(4\sigma^2\frac{T}{n}\right)\\=np(1-p)\left(4\sigma^2\frac{T}{n}\right)=\\=p(1-p)4T\sigma^2
\end{align*}
If $p=0.5$, then the moments above are:
$$\mathbb{E}\left[\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)}\right]=\eta T \qquad V\left(\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)}\right)=T\sigma^2$$
So if we pick $\eta:=\mu-0.5\sigma^2$, then the moments of the binomial tree model agree with the continuous model as long as $p=0.5$.
(the beauty is that if we pick $p=0.5$ the moments agree with the continuous model for any $n$).
So with the set-up above, for a (smallish) finite number of steps "$n$" in the Binomial tree model, the random variable $\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)}$ will follow a Binomial distribution, but its mean and variance will agree with the continuous GBM model.
What about convergence of the Binomial model to the GBM model for large $n$? Here we can show convergence in distribution:
Using CLT, we can say that for large $n$:
$$j\xrightarrow{d}N(np,\sqrt{np(1-p)})$$
So (using the results (1) and (2) ) we can say that for large $n$:
\begin{equation}
\boxed{\ln{\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0} \right)}\xrightarrow{d}N\left(\sqrt{Tn}\sigma(2p-1)+\eta T,p(1-p)4T\sigma^2\right)}
\end{equation}
Again, this will agree with the continuous model as long as $p=0.5$ and $\eta=\mu-0.5\sigma^2$.
Summary:
- For any finite ("small") number of steps $n$ in the binomial tree model , the moments will agree with the continuous model as long as $p=0.5$ and $\eta = \mu-0.5\sigma^2$ (and under this set-up the variable $\ln\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)$ will be distributed Binomially with these moments)
- If, in addition, $n$ becomes large, the distribution of the variable $\ln\left(\frac{S_T}{S_0}\right)$ will converge from Binomial to Normal (with the same moments)
Final note: above we looked at the case where $\mu$ is the historical drift. This gives us the freedom to chose $p=0.5$. If instead we considered the risk-neutral model with $\eta=r-0.5\sigma^2$, then the parameter $p$ is given by $p:=\frac{e^{r\frac{T}{n}-d}}{u-d}$ and it's a lot more difficult to show the convergence.
Replicating your results:
Working line by line I get:
$$S_t=S_0e^{j\left(2\sigma\sqrt{\Delta t}\right)+n\left(\mu\Delta t-\sqrt{\Delta t}\sigma\right)}=\\=S_0\exp{\left(\mu t+2\left(j\sigma \sqrt{\Delta t} \right) - n\sigma\sqrt{\Delta t}\right)}=\\=S_0\exp{\left(\mu t+\sigma \sqrt{\Delta t}\left(2j - n \right) \right)}$$
Substituting for $j=np+\sqrt{np(1-p)}z$, we get:
$$S_0\exp{\left(\mu t+\sigma \sqrt{\Delta t}\left(2np+2\sqrt{np(1-p)}z - n \right) \right)}$$
Now evaluating the terms, we get:
$$np=n(0.5+0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\sqrt{\Delta t})=0.5n+0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\frac{t}{\sqrt{\Delta t}}$$
Now the other term:
$2\sqrt{np(1-p)}z=2\left(np-np^2\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z=\\=2\left(0.5n+0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\frac{t}{\sqrt{\Delta t}}-n(0.5 -0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\sqrt{\Delta t})^2\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z=\\=2\left(0.5n+0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\frac{t}{\sqrt{\Delta t}}-n(0.25-0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\sqrt{\Delta t}+0.25\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2}\Delta t)\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z=\\=2\left(0.5n+0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\frac{t}{\sqrt{\Delta t}}-0.25n-0.5\frac{\mu}{\sigma}\frac{t}{\sqrt{\Delta t}}+0.25\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2}t\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z=\\=2\left(0.25n+0.25\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2}t\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z$
Plugging it all back (using $\sigma \sqrt{\Delta t}*2np=\mu t)$:
$$S_t=S_0\exp{\left(2\mu t+2\sigma \sqrt{\Delta t}\left(0.25n+0.25\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2}t\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z\right)}=\\=S_0\exp{\left(2\mu t+2\sigma \sqrt{\Delta t} \left(0.25n+0.25\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2}n \Delta t\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z\right)}=\\=S_0\exp{\left(2\mu t+\sigma \sqrt{t} \left(1+\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2} \Delta t\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}z\right)}$$
To replicate your result fully, we must show that:
$$\lim_{n\to\infty}\left(1+\frac{\mu^2}{\sigma^2} \Delta t\right)^{\frac{1}{2}}=0$$